I started this website because I every time I tell my story, I meet someone who is suffering in silence about the abortion(s) they had.  Like I suffered for many years.  They need to know that their broken heart can be healed.  I also hope that my story will help other women who are in a crisis pregnancy make the decision to keep their baby.  Whether you choose to raise your child, or pursue adoption, giving life to your baby is always the right choice.

I believe when women who have had abortions start to speak up about the devastation it has caused in their lives, it will become clear that abortion is not a simple solution to deal with the fears of an unplanned pregnancy, and how it will affect your life.  You realize your life has changed.  And it has changed.  It will never be the same again.  Having an abortion does not mean your life goes back to the way it was before you were pregnant.  An abortion may make your life look the same, but it will never be or feel the same again.  Everyone expects you to carry on, as you suffer in silence because no one understands that you are changed.  Your heart is broken.  You ended a life.  One you were supposed to protect.  Now, get to work, get back to school, put on that happy face, and get on with life!  That’s just not how it works.

The time of crisis is when you are trying to make a decision about what to do.  Once you make the decision to keep your baby, the crisis is over and you just need to get on with figuring things out, which you can do.  If you are afraid of how your life is going to change, that’s normal!!  Your hopes and dreams have not ended!  You’ve just changed course, which will happen during your life for many different reasons.  If you do not already have it, find support.  Keep looking until you find it.  Women’s crisis pregnancy centers were created to support women and help them get the resources they need.  They are a social and spiritual support system for you.  They are an incredible resource!  Especially if you have no other social support.

You were made strong.  Your body was made for this.  I know you have it in you to embrace this life change, and give life to your child.  I had it in me too.  At the time, I just didn’t know it . . .